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Happiness in relationships

April 1, 2008

Is it even possible for someone to feel real happiness and love with someone they're only infatuated or obsessed with? What harm does a relationship like this do to someone? To me, unless something is as real as possible, be it through something spiritual or with real love, then it's not real and the happiness is fake as Monopoly money. There's no real purpose with infatuation, no real connection unless it is the shallow kind. I worry about anybody who goes through infatuation and thinks they are happy just because they are with someone drop dead gorgeous or handsome without feeling a real connection. You can't judge loved ones by how alike you think they are to you nor by unfair ideals. Not everyone can be a model or have clear skin, or be adventurous, or built like a body-builder. Happiness is not about superficiality, it's in spite of it. Don't love him just because he is a handsome and athletic man and don't love her just because she is an adventurous super model or whatever shallow ideal seems to pop into mind.

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      sking
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      Posted 8 months ago by sking

      All too true........sometimes love starts with an infatuation.....maybe it is their personalitly or whatever....you are somehow drawn to that person for some reason...and sometimes, it might be someone you have known as a friend a long time, then...sparks! Either way, love is quite complicated, and too much emphasis is placed on 'image'....follow your heart, I say! Have a gr8 weekend....Steph

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      Posted 8 months ago by JeanieAnn

      Yeah, I don't know that one can really tell how two other people feel about each other. All you can do is trust your instincts in your own relationships. But you know, I have met people who are just looking for a casual relationship....someone to have fun with, hang out, etc. but also know that it won't last. Maybe there's nothing wrong with that as long as both people go into it with their eyes open and are honest about it......its not my sort of thing but I can see why some people do it.

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      Posted 8 months ago by JeanieAnn

      Yep, you're right on with your comments. Although, I do think sometimes infatuation is just a step in a relationship....it can be that early puppy love that then continues into the deeper feelings, but it only happens that way if the connection is real, not based on superficial criteria.

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      Posted 8 months ago by pegasus

      People who go for just looks usually have a very shallow relationship and they are the ones that end quickly. Like you I agree on that one. Kind of like me sticking with my idea of a guy that is tall dark & handsome. I might miss out on a short heavy set blond soul mate. LOL! If someone is not happy or satisfied with me & all that I can give them I don't want them in my life. Check out Massa Dave on my site he went for someone better looking then me and she hurt him and he lost out on an opportunity with me & we were more compatabile. I love him as a friend & a brother but nothing more. I'm second for no one!

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      Posted 8 months ago by pegasus

      I think that love takes time. I do believe in love at first sight & soul harmony of two beings but I think when that happens it is God talking to you & tells you it will be alright to take that chance & to believe but it still takes time with even them for true love to develop. Both of you also always have to believe in the gift they have been given. People with that kind of connection just have a better chance because of a soul connection. In the meantime with everyone else I think it takes time for the souls to make their connection but they can.